Let me start by saying that I don’t think a few paragraphs detailing a woman’s desires in bed will make a man change his habits for a woman. I don’t harbor such fantasies. Even the clear and explicit illustrations in sex manuals do not teach men how to gently massage a woman’s sensitive areas. While there is countless evidence that women crave caress, romance, passion, finesse and power in bed, it still won’t change the generally impatient rabbit-like sexual habits of American men.
The reports look trendy, the views are old-fashioned. Men need more help. People are calling for more drastic measures. If the average American man is still having sex in 12 minutes or less after carefully reading books like “How to Make Love to a Woman” and “How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time,” he needs more help. Here’s how.
A picture is worth 1,000 words, and a dynamic picture is worth 1,000 static pictures. Do the math men, the hour of homework I’m about to show you is worth millions of words.
The human brain can quickly forget what it reads, but it takes a long time for moving pictures and videos to disappear from the memory bank. If the movie is short, those pictures will be etched in your brain forever. Gentlemen, if you want to be a better lover, then you have a unique advantage over your grandfather, father or even brother. Right now, the world is full of women with new and exciting personalities showing off their dynamic pictures.
If books don’t teach you that, women’s pornography will! Women’s pornography shows the world the truth about female eroticism. Unlike male pornography, women’s pornography shows you how much women love to be kissed, how much they enjoy caressing, laughing, and having sex with fish.
What do those movies look like? Most of them could be called romantic soft porn, but they don’t fit into the soft category when it comes to censorship. There are no brutal laws in them, no constricting pseudo-doctrines, and no repression of the heart. Female directors make no secret of the fact that romantic soft pornography shows the kind of sex women are obsessed with and the kind of sex they want from men.
Some of these films are excellent, some are mediocre, and some are utterly boring, but they all contain elements that women love. In contrast to male pornography, female pornography is more complex: instead of straightforward sex, it is full of luscious eroticism. The films show the love between a man and a woman and the light compassion and love, with facial close-ups reflecting the tenderness between partners (gentlemen, please note: during sex, you can use facial expressions to make a woman’s heart flutter). The important thing is that you can see where on the woman’s body you should touch and how she likes to be caressed. What you see will be very different from the misconceptions you get from male pornography.
I recently rewatched several male porn movies for this book and finally had a good laugh. A male porn star violently presses the poor girl’s clitoris into her with the knuckles of his middle finger, apparently thinking he’s giving her great pleasure. It’s a good thing for her that the target was a tenth of an inch off, otherwise her pain would have been unbearable. Gentlemen, the benefits of watching women’s pornography go beyond learning about the topography of the female body; you can also learn practical tips such as how to smoothly put on a condom.
Look for the work of outstanding female film directors such as Candida Royale, Gloria Leonard and Deborah Shames, to name just a few. Now let’s have some advance knowledge of these directors’ works. Watching Candida Royale’s films will give you the skills to touch and caress women. Gloria Leonard’s films are a blend of humor and sexuality. And in Deborah Shames’ films, you will learn more ways to create a pleasant flirtation and make your intended partner intoxicated by you.
You will learn from these women’s films that what works for women is humor, romance, tension building, and strong, calm hands; you will learn what your lover really expects on the pillow, at the dinner table, in the elevator, or on the bench.
In one small scene, for example, you see a woman emerge from the bubble bath with a weary look on her face because she has to attend a big charity ball. She reaches into her lingerie drawer and pulls out a white lace jumpsuit, which she is about to tie with a delicate satin bow, when a pair of steady arms wraps around her behind her. She felt a soft kiss pressed to the back of her neck, a trusty hand delicately undoing the tiny pink ribbon, her jumpsuit falling to the floor as a silent stranger tenderly traced circles around her nipples with a strong, delicate pinkie.
Gentlemen, at this point, you may feel the urge to jump over and fast forward to the “good part”. Don’t do it, because the beginning of the movie reveals the location, the characters and the plot development – in women’s eyes, these are the “good parts”.
Many women associate sex with love, and a woman’s arousal is only fully aroused when she has deep feelings or affection for her partner. Many women’s pornographic movies also clearly demonstrate this. My buddy sometimes complains to me, “Why can’t women just forget about all this romantic stuff and just get real?” Well, gentlemen, for a woman, the “real thing” is love or at least intimacy. Her love for you will make her sexier; your love for her will make her sexier.
All studies confirm that women really do prefer romance. In a typical study, a psychologist at Louisiana State University read the same erotic story to a group of men and a group of women, and then asked the subjects questions. As a result, the men remembered clips that were titillating, such as “the woman scratching the man’s back and clamping her legs around him”; while the women remembered the intoxicating clips as “they looked at each other and looked at each other with affection”.